"Maybe stories are just data with a soul." ~ Brene' Brown
Truth or Dare? When you hear those three words taunting you at a bachelorette party on meth does one choice make you cringe and the other make you want to rip off your britches and somersault through a KFC drive-through? "Original Recipe please."
Last week on Fearlessly Female's Facebook Page, my Lovelies, you mastered both - You dared to tell the truth; hotly and fueled by high octane bravery. Dare I say I have my suspicions that even some of you were britch-less while truth telling. You brazen love banshee, you!
Last week we were scientists in the lab of What Love Looks Like. I lit the Bunsen burner and you tested your courage. It was hot, sweaty and emotionally explosive. But like any experiment there is a cause and there is an effect. I did it 'cause I believe that a voice truthfully shared is a tool for healing. The effect was more amazing than I could possibly have imagined.
(To read firsthand the power of trusting strangers coming together in an act of vulnerability click over to our Facebook page and scroll down to the dates of 10-11-12 & 10-12-12, following The Hot Truth events of those days.)
What did you feel when it was over - when your guts spilled rambunctiously onto the world's page?
Did panic begin to take hold and scream, "Retreat! Retreat!"?
Did you have an emotional hangover the following morning complete with physical exhaustion, wobbly thoughts and a desperate need for a Chocolate IV drip at your bedside? (Or was that just me?)
Did you leave those two days feeling heard, clearly seen, connected, a little less fearful and a lot more loved? I do hope so.
As Brene' Brown, Ph.D, social researcher, nationally renowned speaker and best selling author on the topic of vulnerability would say, "Get messy.....lean into the pain.....that's where the power is."
A few weeks ago I downloaded Dr. Brown's new book Daring Greatly and to my absolutely delight, she was speaking my language. With just a few chapters in, Daring Greatly sparked the idea to open up the social media space as a safe place to be raw, peeled open and simmered over a love fire. My Lovelies, you showed up in gorgeous force and proved that being transparent, if even for a day, will summon the strength of others to jump into the soup and share in the whole-hearted flavor.
We've only just begun for there is a feast to be prepared, my Lovelies. Time to call upon one of the Master Chef's for a recipe to dare with:
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She said it all, didn't she? Exquisitely.
On 10-11-12, you had the courage to be imperfect. You connected with yourself and each other with your entire heart, broken bits and all. That wasn't just a representation of living out loud. That truth fest didn't just reveal how the domino effect of sharing oneself encourages another to safely fall. Those two days blazed the trail of boldly sharing The Hot Truth, no matter the consequence, in this fearful, modern world. THAT is rare.
So allow me to pose the question to you that Dr. Brown asks - What is vulnerability? What makes you feel vulnerable?